Newsflash

     Yesterday I received an email from my child support case worker to confirm that a photo that was attached to the email is Jamie McCurry, the suspected rapist who impregnated me while I was serving in Korea in the United States Army. I confirmed it was him. He looks alot different now than he did back then. It has been 16 years since I was impregnated unknowingly. I found out I was pregnant when I was already 7 months pregnant. It took a lot of work to get this far. I did not know who the father was. I was, at the time I was asked by a nurse if I knew I was pregnant, separated from my now ex-husband, and dating Jonathan Rivera. Naturally, I thought Jonathan Rivera was the father because we did have sex one time. 

    Years later, I found out that Rivera was not the father through a paternity test that he paid for. Caleb looks nothing like him. I did not know who Caleb looked like. A white man. I tried to research my notes after Caleb was born. I assumed by his size that it had been a full-term pregnancy. I worked out that 9 months prior to his birth was February 2008. I could not recall any times having sex. How did I get pregnant? Who is Caleb's biological father?

    I found my pocket calendar that I kept notes in. It showed that in February I was at Camp Casey, Korea for PBUSE training. I know that I met someone while I was there. I could not remember more than having a drink or two. Did I give consent to have sex? Was I drunk? What happened? I did not even remember the name of the soldier who was stationed there that I met. He was in the Army. He was with 2ID. I could not recall anything about him. I never saw him again. I never spoke to him again. When I figured out it was likely his baby, I tried to figure out how to contact him. I had no way to search for him because I could not recall his name or identify any features. I could not report it as rape. It did not occur to me that I had been raped. I was so confused.

    I gave birth with the help of my battle buddy, Christinia. She held my hand while I pushed Caleb out. Rivera arrived the next day thinking he was going to see his first child. 

    I felt like I could not tell anyone that I did not know who the father was. I felt so guilty. I knew I would be called a whore. 

    Thank God for my First Sergeant at the time. She helped me find housing off post. 

    I have been through so much with Caleb as a single mom with no child support. Should I press charges? You might be asking how I figured out it was Jamie McCurry who impregnated me without my consent. It was because when Caleb was a toddler I bought an AncestryDNA kit for him, along with other brands of DNA testing. I have been waiting for a close family member to match his DNA all this time. Some years ago Billy Honey, Caleb's second cousin reached out to me. Together we found that his cousin was stationed at Camp Casey during the time I was impregnated.

    I reached out to Jamie McCurry. He denied knowing me, even with photos provided that were of me back then. DNA doesn't lie though. I asked him to take a paternity test and refused. 

    Here we are now, probably more than a year of waiting for child support services to locate Jamie McCurry and have him take a paternity test. Caleb turns 15 years old in a couple of weeks. All this time I have been parenting alone, with no child support, and only with my disability payments to make it through. The time has come to set things straight. I am ready. 

    I can't begin to explain all the energy I felt yesterday when I got that email. I don't know where in the process the state of Arkansas is. I know that their interstate child support services handed the file over to the legal department. I don't know any more details than that. If Jamie McCurry is not the father, he should be more than interested in proving it. It's not like it costs him anything. 

    I'm so over waiting. I want this to end. I need child support. I can't buy enough groceries to feed us. I'm trying to expand my business by learning new services I can provide from home. It's taking longer than expected to get things set in place. I am doing everything alone and by myself.

    I pray. Please God help us. It has been 16 years since I was pregnant with a man's baby that I do not even know. Let us find justice somehow.

    I've been through so much that I need to heal from. So has Caleb. 

    If you are reading this, I ask that you keep us in your prayers. We need all the help we can get.

    Thank you for reading, and have a blessed day.