Sunday, January 3, 2021

5 Year Journal Day 222

     Today's prompt is "Write down your last sent text message." My last sent text message was to Caleb , "Take your med."

     It is now 1:35 a.m. here. Yesterday started out rough, with digestion issues, but as the day passed on, I began feeling better. I was able to get some house cleaning done. I fully loaded the dishwasher, and ran it. I hand washed as many dishes as I could put in the dish strainer. I collected 3 full bags of recycling to be taken out. Not bad. It doesn't look like I did anything though, which sucks. 

     It was a rainy day, but I was not in alot of pain like usual. I have been wearing my empath protection necklace since I got it, the day before yesterday, I think. I feel a difference. It has a positive effect on me. 

     It would have been just another rainy Saturday at home, but I got a message from Billy A. Johnson-Honey, Caleb's 4th cousin. Here's the conversation between us:

Billy: Ok what's your thoughts on Jamie being the father?

Me: I think he is Caleb's family, not necessarily his father. I wish he would take the ancestryDNA test for us. We might get closer to the answer.

Billy: Here's the deal. My thoughts are this

Me: It strikes me as odd that he was in the right place at the right time

Billy: I figured y'all had a good bit of drinks and just can't remember. Which when you're young. You are wild

     But Jamie got pissed at me yesterday.

     Here's the deal. Caleb is kin to me on different sets of my family

Me: Ok

Billy: Both on different blood lines. Rhoades and Sellers

Me: But how is Peggie so closely related?

Billy: Well I have two sets of family that I'm double kin to

     It's his dad's mother

     The first set of double cuzins I have come from my Sellers and Whitten line. Caleb is not kin to Whittens so that rules out anybody from that family line

Me: Me 3,437 cM shared

     Peggie Bartolotta 1,144 cM shared

     Billy (kbhoney31) 75 cM shared

     She is easily Caleb's great grandma

Billy: The second set I forgot about. Stay with me now

Me: Ok

Billy: The second set is Rhoades and Sellers

     My great grandmother Sellers had a son named George which he had a daughter named Frances

     Just remember Frances. She is my 1st cousin 1x removed

Me: Ok

Billy: My Granny's sister from the Sellers grandma, Sister named was Delia had a son named Sammy Joe

     Sammy Joe is my 1st cousin 1x removed

     So Sammy Joe married Frances

     No blood kin mixing, but all kids and grand kids are double kin

     Last name of Sammy Joe is McCurry, Frances' husband. Jamie's grandparents . My double cousin

     Jamie may come around, or he may not. But Caleb is my blood. Oh by the way I confronted him with this , and then he finally said drop it. His PTSD kinda kicked in.

Me: Yeah

Billy: No more questions. Now do you believe he's the dad. I have no doubt

Me: Yes I am sure

     The door is open when he is ready to talk

Billy: Here is my number for Caleb to call. I have a Caleb here also my boy, he's 28. # just text me first before calling. I'll text you back when I am able to talk. Happy I was able to help Jennifer.

Me: Wow I can't believe this. This is a break-through!

     It's unfortunate that he won't take the DNA test to prove or disprove it

Billy: If you go into my photo albums and look at old family photos . You can look for George Brown, Frances Brown, Delia McCurry, Granny Summerland (Sellers) and Granny Burns (Rhoades) any body with those last names are Caleb's cousins and kin

Me: Ok

Billy: You don't need it. He's the dad. He doesn't have much/ PTSD has really took a toll on him. Don't get me wrong, he can a very loving person. Just deals with those demons from Church combat. He has a new girlfriend and they just got a place together. Who knows he might come around

     Church delete

Me: Oh I understand

     I was never able to provide Caleb with a dad

     I have carried guilt about it all this time

     I have my own demons

Billy: Don't be guilty. The Good Lord Forgives.

     Give Caleb a hug from me and tell him his Cuzin billy loves him

Me: I will. Do you mind if I take one of your photos from Facebook to show him you?

Billy: Make sure he knows what I look like

Me: Lol that's what I'm asking

Billy: (thumbs up sticker)

Me: His birthday was New Year's Eve

     He just turned 12

Billy: Tell him happy belated birthday for me.

Me: Will do. Thank you so much for helping us!

Billy: My Father in Heaven sent me. Thank him. Remember there is "No Fear within Gods Love"

Me: (sticker)

>LATER<

Me: Should someone tell the rest of the family that Caleb exists? He is missing a whole half of his family because Jamie is in denial. That's not fair to Caleb. He has been without half his family tree for 12 years. 

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     That's what happened today! Caleb's biological father has been confirmed! Jamie McCurry , now living in Arkansas, is Caleb's biological father. It's so great that I now know that! I am actually happy about it. I didn't think I would be. After all I have been through, after all Caleb has been through, and we did it together and alone. It would be nice to expand Caleb's family tree. I am waiting on Billy's lead to make any moves. I want to tell Peggie Bartolotta that Caleb is her great grandson! 

     Other people in the family might be more accepting than Jamie is. It's such big news!

     To think, I was thinking about taking charges against him just to find out who he was. I still could, if I had to. I mean, I didn't get pregnant by myself! 


Some Photos of Jamie McCurry from Facebook.



 


 





 


     That is all. Already took my iron pill and orange juice earlier tonight. I am wide awake, and have nothing to do. I wish that book light would get here already. The mail is so slow! 


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